They Thought Better

I can remember the feeling clearly. I was sitting in another meeting that was steeped in religious overtones, with individuals taking on mantles of authority and telling others what God was saying to them. It just so happened to be exactly what the individual wanted, and there was no opportunity for feedback or communal discernment. I have no doubt that in their spiritual experience, this was an authentic, albeit immature, expression of their zealous faith. Unfortunately, situations like this lack one of the key marks of spiritual maturity: love.

When we examine our own roots, we have to examine our own motives, and accept that we rarely fully comprehend other’s own motives. We can only scratch the surface of what is really going on, and so need to be quick to listen, and slow to speak. Through listening, we provide soft soil for the Gospel to take root, and open the door to truly loving those around us.

If you’ve read through the Gospel’s, it is amazing to note how often Jesus asks questions of individuals who come to him. When asked a question, he often invites the questioner to inductively answer their own inquiry, rather than directly answer for them. For a man who literally had all of the answers, he is surprisingly evasive.

For all of Jesus’ apparent evasiveness, however, he frequently fosters deep, soul-changing conversations. Nicodemus, the woman at the well, John’s disciples are all offered real, deep truths in the face of their own questions that invite them to reevaluate their worldview.

Practice: Listen

Last week, we practiced resting with Jesus. How did resting in the truths of God impact you over the past week?

This week, we’re moving outward in our practice, truly listening to others. The previous two practices have been about moving inward and learning our own internal voices, which when we know ourselves, allows us to be fully present with others.

This week, practice asking only questions in a key conversation.

The same as resting, this will seem incredibly foreign and difficult. We are so used to getting our word in edgewise, or giving space for others to simply run the conversation, moving into intentional inquiry is a real mind bender. 

Don’t be in a rush through the conversation, but truly listen to the other person. When they have finished their thought, then engage in what you’re hearing. Meanwhile, don’t be afraid to engage in prayer while you sit in the conversation with them. The Spirit is our best listener, and knows what is going on in both of your hearts. Allow Him to guide you.

I’ll be praying with you as you engage others in this new way.